The Blame Game

When ever has blaming someone actually been the solution to a problem?
How long ago did blaming start?
For how long will humans continue to blame others?

Welcome to the Blame Game everybody!
I am your host, TLCsDestiny and I'd like to just state: "The Blame Game is not a solution!"

Anyway, I've recently been 'blamed' and it sucks.
You know what I figured though!?
Not only is blaming someone not a part of the solution but it also deters from finding the solution to the problem.
People get emotional when blamed, some might not feel as much and able to get over it quickly but if it's about a very sensitive matter and has to do with family...It's a lose lose situation!

Blaming someone has been around since day dot and it obviously 'Doesn't work!'
But then, how do we overcome it? How do we not blame someone when we are angry!?

I was told quite some time ago that anger is a secondary emotion.
I believe that and think that the blame game could be a lot less popular of a game if people were either: upfront with the REAL problem or people LEARNT how to deal with their anger better or knew that being blamed for something was not the solution and could focus...

I was practically told that I was a bad mother, by none other then family, immediate family at that but...What sucks...Is that I could cry to my poor kid who doesn't seem to be 'seen'.
She is diagnoised by a professional to have an issue and they blame that on me when it is basically proven that it is not my fault!
There is obviously a lot more to this but you know what? They didn't give me a solution, no they just critized and blamed me that my child is the way they are because of ME!
When I first heard it, I was like fine, I won't speak to them or they can take the kid for a while and finally understand them better but now...Now I am calm and me, being a person that grew up and not feeling like anyone cares, I'm over it already.
I've thought of 'excuses' that they may have to have blamed me, like they actually feel bad about another kid and wanted to take whatever out on my kid instead or something else to do with having a bad day but still...No solution is made, except the fact that I want to do better, I just don't know how...
Anyway, solution or not, it's not nice and I wish I could find a cure for the Blame game...Pun...A solution to the blame game is not the solution to the problem haha...Anyway...

So, one more time everyone! "The Blame Game is not the solution!"
And one more time, 'Anger is a secondary emotion!'
Take it easy alright, don't let out words so much when angry because you probably know how much it hurts to be blamed for something.

Cheers.
TLC

P.S, I don't know how to relate my stories to this post so...Just check me out of scribblehub.com or blurb.com. 

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